Should and Shame

How we talk to ourselves (and others) matters.

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I hope to never tell someone or myself what they or I should be doing. Even when said with the best intentions the phrase “You should be . . .” sounds judgemental and bossy. “Should” is a shame word. If we say we should be doing something, it means we are not doing that thing. “Should” implies doing something wrong, a lack, a failure. “Should” is dripping…



Jonica Bradley (Am I paranoid or RU following me?)

Writer/Painter/Poet/Believes in magic/nature/prays to unicorns/goat expert/bee farmer/mental health advocate/C-PTSD/human rights advocate/coolest person ever